In the last week I have been trying to make our living arrangement nicer, it went as follows
Back from holiday on the Thursday night. (He fell asleep on the sofa)
Friday - tense but he left at about 2pm to go way for the weekend, this was already planed.
Monday - woke up and found him asleep on the sofa. So I went to work as normal, He had the day off to get over the weekend. Got back from work and he was not there. He was collecting the birds from his mothers. Helped him get the birds in and then he went out. I found his wedding ring on his desk.
Tuesday - normal day a little strained in the house in the morning. got back from work walked the dog and then fell asleep
Wednesday - Can not live with the not talking but don't know how to get us to open up to one another, so I left him a note under his wedding ring, Asking him if he had given up on us.
Got home from work and just started talking to him about it. The out come of the talk is that how thing run in home will change and he is worried about money. We also talked about the emotional side of our relationship and he was unsure that this part of it will change.
I have agreed to review it at Christmas.
I don't know if the changes will be enough but at least it is a nice place to live without the atmosphere.
10 months ago